Friday, August 20, 2010

Would you start fresh with your ex girlfriend, given the chance?

The ex gf of over 1.5 years broke up, and after 1 month of the break up, she finds a new boyfriend. It's been 3 months and she contacts me, asking how I'm ';coping'; (since the break up) and how we should be friends. I really don't want to since I'll hurt me to see her with another guy, and that's why I'm ignoring her. Would you get back with YOUR ex if given the chance? Do you think she still likes me?Would you start fresh with your ex girlfriend, given the chance?
in your case she has a new man so its best to just let go and she might like u but only as a person... if i had the chance to get back with my ex boyfriend... no i wouldnt just because there was a reason for the break up.. if she hurt u real bad dont bother with her find a better girl who wont break your heartWould you start fresh with your ex girlfriend, given the chance?
It's always hard after a break up, for both people in the relationship. It's obvious that she began a relationship with this other guy in a time of hardship and confusion. I dating a guy for two years and a couple months after the break-up, I began a relationship while I was still a complete wreck. I would take my ex back in a heartbeat because I will never love anyone as much as my ex. Of course she still loves you! She doesn't just forget about you overnight, and she has to be thinking about you if she wants you back in her life. Win her back! If you don't, you mind end up always regretting it. Good luck %26amp; follow your heart.
All my ex's suck. I don't give them the time of day.


If she's writing you messages like that she either:


1) Misses you


2) Made up a boyfriend


3) Isn't happy with her boyfriend


4) Is mean and wants to rub her relationship in your face.





I'd say blow her off. You have to make yourself happy, if seeing her with someone new will hurt you, don't put yourself through it. Either tell her you're fine but you dont want to be friends, or completely ignore her.
It depends on if you still have feelings for her. Usually when a girl does that she isn't really feeling the guy that she is with or he is either brushing her off(being indecisive as to what he wants to do) So with being friends with you she is using you as the safety net. If it hurts for you to see her with someone else, ask her why do you want to be friends? I'm cool. She will then drop the indecisive guy and come running back to you.
hmm, I've never had a serious relationship before but I don't think you should do it if it makes you feel bad.





I mean, one month and she has a bf already? well ok, I guess some people get over others quickly.
i would suggest that u take time and think this over and use your head not your heart. Love can make u do stupid things. So can the fear of being alone. Just remember that this person is an ex for a reason. Good luck!
she seems like she still likes you, yes. I personally have gotten back with a few ex's and things ended again. it always starts out like things will be better but then ends the same way.








hope it helps,


faith (:
Been in the same situation.


She has feelings for you, but only as a friend...


I would not get back with my ex because she is a jealous, lying player
i would say no; the likely hood of the same problems arriving or her leaving you again -- is probably going to happen.
Depends on why did you guys break up? ANd she went to another guy because she thinks she can get over you by being wit someone else. I'd say get back...but ask again why did u break up with her.
She probably still has feelings for you. She could have broke up with you to see if you'd be hurt..then she would know you really cared about her.
nopeeee
I don't have an ex girlfriend
!!!!!!!!!!! HELL NO !!!!!!!!!!!!!
I wouldn't get back with my ex, cos she's a crazy *****.
I wouldn't, she's put on weight since I was with her. She's not worth going after now.
I've tried it and found the same problems, needless to say we broke up again.
Hey holio,


Man, this is a tough one for anybody of any age.





Would you start fresh with your ex girlfriend,


* Without any information you already have the information you need....She ain't here in your life today. I think that might be a real big clue for you, me or any of us.





...given the chance?


* Think about it. She's not even here with you right now to give you that chance. ';If'; you didn't deserve this how does that make you feel?





The ex gf of over 1.5 years broke up,


* Whoa! That tells a lot about you and your commitment to her as loyalty is rare and almost unheard of.





and after 1 month of the break up, she finds a new boyfriend.


* Okay, that should tell you something. She's in a hurry and it doesn't include you (aka; Also Know As; ...a no brainer).





* Man this is not good for you and I'm sorry as you certainly deserve better. Ummmh, the word respect comes to mind.





It's been 3 months and she contacts me, asking how I'm ';coping';


* She might be lying to you right now because she may not be any longer with the new dude and is rethinking about you. Just wait and see as you really don't know about these things; and the time it will take is in your favor no matter what happens.





(since the break up) and how we should be friends.


* ';If'; she is not with you now or was not with you in person at your place or hers and were not holding hands as she asked that question then ...who hand was she holding? ...Clue, it wasn't yours, unless you really know the truth of it all.





I really don't want to since I'll hurt me to see her with another guy,


* Bingo! Keep truck'n. If she is serious she will be back with you in less than 12 to 72 hours max.; as a rule in these matters; give or take a little or a lot and it is you who will decide the little or a lot depending on your tolerance level. I sense you are very tolerant.





and that's why I'm ignoring her.


* Great, you have a great tolerance level as ignoring is self imposed


waiting on your part.


* You don't mention your love for her or her for you unless you are substituting liking each other in the 1.5 years of being just friends; just boy and girlfriend. The good news is that liking each other ';first'; come before your true love for each other as a rule.


* In this case I would hope she's waiting for you to forgive her.


* She doesn't have to ask you for forgiveness because you are going to give it to her anyway. For it is you who asks ';Do you think she still likes me. She will know she is accepted back seeing your silent, kind and true spirit about her and without asking questions of her as it is a guarantee of her running off ...again ...forever.





Would you get back with YOUR ex if given the chance?


* No, if she has been intimate with him.





Do you think she still likes me?


* Her asking; how you are coping and how we should be friends may not mean what you want it to mean. So, ask her,';What do you mean by that?'; ';Are you asking or thinking you want to get back together again or what?





*If you can't get good quick and ';timely'; answers ...walk away; and Holio that is easier said than done as no one should ever be alone.





** What ever you decide be kind to her and most of all be kind to yourself for this will provide a safe place for her ...when she returns.


If she returns and she decides it is not safe for her you will stand the chance of loosing her. If it is not safe she will leave you.





Bless you my friend,


Paul


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What would you do if you were me and this was your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend? What do you think of what I did?

Im the typical ';good girl'; and my ex Mark was the typical ';bad boy';. He had a really good heart though. We were on and off for about 2 years. I was crazy in love with him. Because back then i was VERY innocent and didn't have much experience (I was a virgin) I was scared of getting hurt. I wouldn't kiss him at all and wouldn't tell him how i felt. He respected that i was a virgin. He never pressured me. Back then i guess i felt that if i didn't give him ANYTHING like if i didn't tell him how i feel kiss him or anything that if he'd hurt me it wouldn't hurt as much because i never tried.





He was 2 years older than me so he was looking for a serious relationship and because i was scared of getting hurt and wouldn't let my guards down i couldn't give him that. I back then was looking for a less serious relationship and hated that he didn't live the typical high school life like i did. I also always wondered what it would be like dating a guy who was the typical ';good boy'; and felt guilty for wondering. I treated him like crap. I would almost try to be mean to him. He had no idea how much i really loved him he honestly thought he didnt mean anything to me. Sometimes when we were broken up he'd have one night stands with these random slutty girls Back then because i couldnt understand how he needed intimacy %26amp; someone to show him they cared.I got fed up and angry and ended it with him saying ALOT of things i regret . It was tough after we broke up because I live next to his moms house so whenever he visits his mom i can see everything.





After we broke up i dated the typical ';good boy (Justin) He would rather play sports/be with his friends than me. I was his';trophy girlfriend'; He'd only see me when he wanted to show me to his friends or had nothing to do. He wasnt sexual. He'd rather watch sports then be intimate with me. For the 1st time in my life i realized how it felt to be with someone who you felt couldnt care less about you and wouldnt emotionally/physically show you how they feel. Because im a really good girl at heart it was very boring for me being with a guy who was also SO good. Im looking for a serious relationship and Justin wasnt. After me and Justin broke up i ended up having a one night stand with some guy. I NEVER before thought i could do something like that but the truth is i felt SO lonely and just wanted to have that sort of intimacy with a guy that i wasnt getting with Justin





Im finally ready for the relationship my ex mark wanted(a year and 3months later). Im not afraid to get hurt and am able to the girlfriend i always wanted to be with him. I ended up sending him a friendly email asking him hows he doing. Im worried though because he was living with this girl but they broke up around when me %26amp; Jay broke up. I hope they havnt gotten back together.


What do you think of all this?


Thanks!What would you do if you were me and this was your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend? What do you think of what I did?
i think that even though you may regret things that you did in the past, those actions helped you realize what you truly wanted.


and i think it's good that you didn't let your guard down and do something you didn't want to before you were ready


i think that you needed to go through all those experiences with justin and all that other stuff for you to realize that what and who you want is mark


it sounded like before you were unsure of what you wanted but these experiences have shown you exactly what you do want


and that maybe you weren't ready for a boyfriend like mark back then, but now you are and if you two get together i think that would be ahh-mayyyzing =)


good luck with everything and i hope it all works out =)What would you do if you were me and this was your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend? What do you think of what I did?
I think you should contact Mark and see if things will work out. Good luck.
i say that if mark and his girl arent back together then you should find out if hes willling to give you guys another chance...
hmm you probably should start by telling mark all of your feelings, like that you did really love him and that it was hard for you to express your feelings back then. after that see what he says, if he doesnt want to be with you even after you told him that there isnt much you can do except respect how he feels also
Karma, baby, Karma. If you're foshizly sure that you're ready, go for it, but be careful, don't do anything you don't want to do. Abstinence is key. So is confidence, but that's off subject.
call mark back, he was evidently a very nice boy to not pressure you to have sex with him when u didnt want to. He was into you for you, and that is great, you should definitly get back in touch with him. forget emailing. Call him and pour your heart out, tell him that you were stupid for letting him go %26amp; that you are ready for a real relationship with him now, emotionally and physically. but dont come off as a slut. he was with you for years, and people cannot turn that off. good luck-wish I could find this!
It's all good.





Don't worry about anything..





You can't change your past, but you can change your future.





Make it good for the both of you and don't let yourself down.





You seem like a wonderful girl and you have a lot ahead of you.





Embrace the change and let it flow.





Good luck =]

What would you honestly think if your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend emailed you this?

My ex and I haven't spoken to each other for about a year and a couple months. Before we broke up we were on and off for 2 years. When we stopped talking we were not going out but we both know we still liked each other and wanted to get back together. I made a mistake and had a fling with this guy and lied to him and he found out about it and flipped out at me on MSN told me ';i wasn't the girl he thought i was, and that he was wrong about me and that i turned out how everyone warned him id turn out'; he then blocked and deleted me on MSN.





When i tried talking to his friend about it they didn't seem interested in hearing my side of the story. I ended up seeing him at the mall a couple months after we stopped talking and he just walked right by me and gave me a very dirty look.





I heard he moved on with someone else and so did I. Its been a year and 3 months since that day he flipped out and stopped talking to me. He just emailed me this.





Hey Lynn


Do you remember me? lol


I haven’t talked to you in a long time and I was just wondering how you were doing?


Are you still out of town or here in Ottawa?


Well anyways I hope all is good!


ttyl or something





Should I write back?


Do you think hes just being friendly or wanting something more?


What do you think about this?What would you honestly think if your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend emailed you this?
yeah why not? Don't reply too soon though and notice there are no kisses so don't be disalusioned and put kisses at the end of yours! Put a question in there so he has to reply and if he doesnt you know the email was simply out of curiosity!


XWhat would you honestly think if your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend emailed you this?
to be honest, maybe he misses you, but you have to be careful,do you still have feelings for him? if i were you, i wouldnt even forgive how he looked at you, and didnt want to give you another chance. what a jerk, he proberly thinks he can get you whenever he wants to.
i think he just misses you and is just curious on how you're doing. my ex does the same thing..

How to get your ex back?

im a 14 year old girl and i want my ex back. his friend told me that my boyfriend wanted to break up with me and told me because my friends were anoying him and telling him i told them to come over there and yell at him WHICH I DIDNT.


Every day about 10 people went up to him and asked him stuff that i had no clue about it tell his friend told me about it.


i havnt talked to him sence his friend told me he wanted to break up.plus everyone keeps saying hes being mean to everyone latley. SO what should i do :( why do you think he didnt telll me this to my face?How to get your ex back?
HE DOESNT CARE FOR YOUHow to get your ex back?
that's an unmanly way to break up with someone. i think you should talk to him and even if he doesn't want to go back with you just straighten out any misunderstandings.
i think he is sacred and upset u should try talking to him alone and i also think your friends are very jealous people

How to deal with an ex girlfriend that keeps trying to contact your boyfriend?

We have been together almost 2 years now and his ex girlfriend keeps trying to contact him. I am not sure if it's because she wants to know how their (now our dogs) are or if she is just trying to cause trouble. My boyfriend never responds back to her and when ever she tries to request him as a friend on social networks he rejects her, but it really bugs me. She just recently got engaged and that seems to be when the behavior got worse. Should I say something to her to see what it is she wants or just leave it alone?How to deal with an ex girlfriend that keeps trying to contact your boyfriend?
ignore it and move onHow to deal with an ex girlfriend that keeps trying to contact your boyfriend?
One way for him to get her to stop is for him to simply state that he does not want to hear from her again. He needs to put his foot down. He might not want to be confrontational or look cruel, but he has to be firm about this. It's up to him to tell her that what she's doing is unacceptable and if it continues after that, it's harassment. he can make a complaint to the social networking people to have her removed from their network if it continues. Even the police can get involved.


She's getting married to someone else, but she might be so insecure and unsure about the new relationship that she's trying to go back to something safe... your guy.
Leave it alone or else your involvement could open a whole new can of worms. Just let it be.

How can you get your long gone ex back when he has a girlfriend and you two have been broken up for almost 2yr

i still have strong feelings for my long gone ex boyfriend he is currently in college in toldeo and has a girlfriend with whom he been with for months now im a junior in high school living in cleveland which is where he lived and comes back every weekend what should i do i was gonna try and go to toledo when i finish high school what should i do to get my long gone ex back we haven't seen each other since december and we haven't talked over the phone in like 2 months nowHow can you get your long gone ex back when he has a girlfriend and you two have been broken up for almost 2yr
you're only a junior and he's already in college?


well


you need to move on


i'm sorry


but just forget him


leave him aloe


he has a girlfriend


meet some new guys from school


it's been two years it is time to move on


=]How can you get your long gone ex back when he has a girlfriend and you two have been broken up for almost 2yr
hes went on with his life and it would be wise for you to do the same, you will no doubt get your heart broke again if you try to persue him again. he has a girl friend and theyare closer to age than you was to him. and not only that but he could possibly have feelings for this girl. its time for you to move on.hes not talking to you because he doesnt have a need to. try to be friends with him, thats all you can do.
It's not fair to try and win him back now. He has a girlfriend!! Imagine how you would feel if you had a boyfriend and suddenly he left you because his ex from 2 years ago wanted him back? You'd be shattered. Just move on.
girl, i know it's hard but you have to find a way to get over him. would you like it if you were with a guy and his ex girlfriend starts trying to get back with him. you have to respect his new relationship.
im srry hun but your not getting him back....try moving on there are plenty of fish in the sea
Get a grip on yourself...on your emotions!


Move on with your life!
ya...i dont think it will happen
ummm.....well i think u should just move onnnn!!
Who broke up with who? and why did you break up? You see people tend to remember the good times after a long term break up if the break up wasn't bad and ended friendly, after a failed attempt to a relationship with another guy you tend to compare your previous relationships and start thinking how great they actually were comparatively, and this may give you the false impression you still have feelings for them!





Anyhow this may not be your case, the only way is to talk to him again, see if he is happy with his relationship and if he is forget him unless you wana be a ***** and break them up!


In the case he is not happy with his relationship then you have a shot at getting him back, but it really all comes down to why you broke up and who broke up with who...
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  • If this was your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend would you of done what I did? Do you think what I did was stupid?

    Im the typical ';good girl'; and my ex Mark was the typical ';bad boy'; He had a really good heart though. We were together (on off) for 2 years. I was crazy in love with him. Back then i was VERY innocent and didn't have much experience (I was a virgin) I was scared of getting hurt. I wouldn't kiss him at all %26amp;wouldn't tell him how i felt. He respected that i was a virgin %26amp; never pressured me.He was 2 years older than me %26amp; was looking for a serious relationship and because i was scared of getting hurt and wouldn't let my guards down i couldn't give him that.I also wondered what it would be like dating a guy who was the typical ';good boy'; and felt guilty. He had no idea how much i loved him, he honestly thought he didnt mean anything to me Back then i couldnt understand how he needed intimacy %26amp; someone to show him they cared.I got angry %26amp; broke up with him saying ALOT of things i regret.





    After we broke up i dated the typical ';good boy'; (didnt smoke, drink and had his life in order) (Justin) He would rather play sports/be with his friends than me. I was his';trophy GF'; He'd only see me when he wanted to show me to his friends or had nothing to do. He wasnt sexual %26amp; rather watch sports then be intimate For the 1st time in my life i realized how it felt to be with someone couldnt care less about you and wouldnt emotionally/ physically show you how they feel. Because im a really good girl at heart it was very boring for me being with a guy who was also SO good. Im looking for a serious relationship and Justin wasnt. We broke up.





    Im finally ready for the relationship Mark wanted(a year and 3months later). Im not afraid to get hurt and am able to the girlfriend i always wanted to be with him. I ended up sending him a friendly email asking him hows he doing. Im worried because he was living with this girl but they broke up but i hope there not back together.


    What do you think of all this?


    Thanks!If this was your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend would you of done what I did? Do you think what I did was stupid?
    you should talk to him face to face and tell him how you feel.


    but FIRST. find out if he's still single!~





    good luck (:If this was your Ex boyfriend/girlfriend would you of done what I did? Do you think what I did was stupid?
    Go back to the guy and after all this time, maybe you two could start fooling around together and see where that goes, not bed him down at first, but rather see how it feels to be sexual with someone for a change.