I will try to make this as short and sweet as I possibly can because im the type that can give great advice but cant take my own. Ive known this guy for about 5 years. We were always friends but never pursued anything like that. In the meantime I was in a relationship and so was he for three years with someone way older than him. She is also very unattractive and heavy compared to me. He always breaks up with her constantly and cheats on her and she takes him back EVERY TIME. Anyways we started dating after two years of not seeing eachother at all because all our mutual friends told me he liked me so what the hell I gave it a shot. He did EVERYTHING FOR ME for about two months, came to see me everyday, bought me anything I wanted, took me out, bought new things to impress me..basically everything to make me happy. He never tried to make a move on me once, all we did was makeout and he was very aware this is how I start things. Im also very outgoing and alot of men want to date me and he sees that. Hes more shy and reserved but still very attractive. Anyways things were perfect and I had the upper hand in the relationship, but still showed my affection to him willingly and was very loyal until one day when I was sick in bed he didnt come to see me. I was shocked and knew something was up so I didnt bother to call or text him for two days or respond to him and I also put some things in my facebook status that may have pissed him off. He changes his facebook status to single ( so gay I know) and his ex - girlfriend is commenting all over his wall. He had called her within the days of me ignoring him. I questioned why he did this and he said he was in a bad mood so I clearly lashed out without thinking and said '; if you want to be with her over me thats fine , i never liked you, and if you ever want me back you better crawl on your knees and hung up '; he questioned my confidence after that through a text and said '; how dare you say im back with her im not back with her shes my friend and she stuck by me for three years '; I never responded. In the meantime hes telling our friends how much he hates me, this man does not hate ANYONE. So two weeks later I text him and say '; So I hear you hate me whats up with that ';? NO RESPONSE ..so I apoligized for screaming at him and down talking him and her and I said I still want to be friends and he responded immediately saying of course we can be friends still. He refuses to see me and will NOT hang out with me. I know hes using his ex girlfriend for sex right now and he feels guilty going back and forth but HONESTLY WTF IS GOING ON IN THIS SITUATION?!HOW TO GET MY EX BOYFRIEND BACK?
Hello
Winning back an ex is not easy at all. It is a lot easier to generate feelings in someone, than it is to change their feelings. But if you take the right steps, and more importantly don't do the wrong things, your chances to win him back increase dramatically.
If you want to win your ex boyfriend back then these 3 simple steps should help achieve your goal:
1.one of the most important things is to get your head straight. You need to get rid of these negative thoughts. You have to stop feeling sorry for yourself. You have to be willing to be strong.
Don't let your emotion and of course your depression keep you down. You can't achieve the goal, if you can't keep your emotions in check and your mind clear. Bad thoughts are destructive behavior and you don't want them..
2.Don't annoy your ex boyfriend. Boys just don't like it when girls become obsessive about them. Especially ex boyfriends. You may want to relax by hearing his voice or seeing his face, but if you really want him back, you must back off for a while. Don't continuously make phone calls to him, email him, or go to his place or where he hangs out just to see him. You want to give him time to realize he may have made a mistake. He may begin to actually miss you and want to get back with you. If you blow it, you may have a tougher time getting your ex boyfriend back.
3.Become an object of desire. If you can, get some new makeup. You will also want to get some new clothes and a new hairstyle. If you've picked up a few pounds, start doing some exercises and eating healthy. When on the outside, you're going to start feeling better about yourself on the inside. If you will feel good on the inside you will be confident and happy. When you're confident and happy, you will project this image to others. You will become an object of desire to men, this includes your ex boyfriend.
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Friday, August 20, 2010
Boys - what can your ex girlfriend do to win you over?
what would make you want your ex girlfriend back? my boyfriend and i broke up a week ago and he still talks to me and texts me and stuff. i never ever start the conversations and some days for no reason at all he'll link me to a youtube video or something to get my attention. but how can i make him want me back? how can i make him jealous and regret breaking up with me?Boys - what can your ex girlfriend do to win you over?
maybe nothing.
erase my memory and not cheat on me for two years with like 5 different guys this time.Boys - what can your ex girlfriend do to win you over?
of my ex wanted me back she would have to get a massive tat of my name on her chest. If i were you i would find some guy that you like then post a picture with you having the word property of whoever on you're arm.
well if you don't mind foul play make it seem like his current girl friend is cheating on him then comfort him in his time of need.... however you might want to save that for your last resort
get down on him men love that!!
maybe nothing.
erase my memory and not cheat on me for two years with like 5 different guys this time.Boys - what can your ex girlfriend do to win you over?
of my ex wanted me back she would have to get a massive tat of my name on her chest. If i were you i would find some guy that you like then post a picture with you having the word property of whoever on you're arm.
well if you don't mind foul play make it seem like his current girl friend is cheating on him then comfort him in his time of need.... however you might want to save that for your last resort
get down on him men love that!!
How Long Did It Take For Your Ex-Boyfriend To Call You?
I was dating a guy for about two months. I'm 36, he's 42. Things were going great! We had met online and after the 2nd date, he told me that he wasn't interested in dating anyone else and removed his profile from the online dating site where we met.
He dated his last girlfriend for 1 1/2 years and he broke up with her 4 months ago because her family didn't like him, she wanted kids (he doesn't) and he said the sex wasn't good. Four days ago, he called me and told me that his ex-gf has been calling him and wants to meet up with him. He didn't know if he wanted to meet with her...he really didn't see the point b/c of the issues they had, but he felt bad because she is a really sweet girl. I encouraged him to meet with her to see what she wanted and told him that we couldn't really move forward in our relationship until he resolved issues with her. He has friends coming in town today and they're going to be here for a week. He told me he wanted to wait until after his company was gone to deal with meeting with her. I encouraged him to meet with her before his friends got here, but I'm not sure if he did or not. It's been 4 days since we've spoken. I have not texted, called, or emailed...and he hasn't either. It's hard because I'm so used to hearing from him multiple times a day. I'm sort of in limbo right now...waiting to find out what happens...and although I'm starting to move on, preparing myself for the possibility that he may get back together with her...I'm just wondering...when a guy is dealing with ';an issue';...how long does it usually take before they start calling again? (days, weeks, months)?? What has been your experience??How Long Did It Take For Your Ex-Boyfriend To Call You?
I'm gonna be honest with you. If he is completely certain he wants to pursue something with you and that he has ZERO interest in his ex, he wouldn't have agreed to meet with her.
He dated his last girlfriend for 1 1/2 years and he broke up with her 4 months ago because her family didn't like him, she wanted kids (he doesn't) and he said the sex wasn't good. Four days ago, he called me and told me that his ex-gf has been calling him and wants to meet up with him. He didn't know if he wanted to meet with her...he really didn't see the point b/c of the issues they had, but he felt bad because she is a really sweet girl. I encouraged him to meet with her to see what she wanted and told him that we couldn't really move forward in our relationship until he resolved issues with her. He has friends coming in town today and they're going to be here for a week. He told me he wanted to wait until after his company was gone to deal with meeting with her. I encouraged him to meet with her before his friends got here, but I'm not sure if he did or not. It's been 4 days since we've spoken. I have not texted, called, or emailed...and he hasn't either. It's hard because I'm so used to hearing from him multiple times a day. I'm sort of in limbo right now...waiting to find out what happens...and although I'm starting to move on, preparing myself for the possibility that he may get back together with her...I'm just wondering...when a guy is dealing with ';an issue';...how long does it usually take before they start calling again? (days, weeks, months)?? What has been your experience??How Long Did It Take For Your Ex-Boyfriend To Call You?
I'm gonna be honest with you. If he is completely certain he wants to pursue something with you and that he has ZERO interest in his ex, he wouldn't have agreed to meet with her.
What would attract you to your ex boyfriend girls?
Hey,
My ex and i split up two weeks back. We cant avoid each other due to attending the same sports club 4-5 times a week.
However, i am taking two weeks off training (quoting illness and holiday as my reasons) to sort myself out. I plan to just concentrate on myself, bring back the guy i used to be, let go of ';us'; and get to the stage where i can just relax around her and have fun like we used to......as friends.
In two weeks me and a group of friends are going over the Dublin to celebrate my 21st birthday- my ex girlfriend is meant to be coming too as she is a big part of my friendship group. We are meant to be meeting for a drink before hand too, to clear the air.
My question to you guys is how to act in two weeks to be most attractive to my ex? MY gut instincts tell me:
- do not talk about the past
- just have fun banter with her like i used, and flirt a little but not over powering
- continue to give her alot of space
- just relax around her
Any suggestions would really really help guys, i really like this girl and although i know it will take a lot of time, patience and control to get a relationship back, i know it is what i really want.
Thanks
xWhat would attract you to your ex boyfriend girls?
You are completely right, all of the bullet points you have listed are completely the right way to go about it...take time and patience and it will pay off...
Good luck to you my dear, really wish my ex boyfriend would think like this.... :)What would attract you to your ex boyfriend girls?
Yes you got it right that you have to be patient that means you are on the right track.I have given these tips to many people and it worked well and i see it will be same for you as well.Just go through them:
How you get back together is going to depend a lot on how you broke up.
If you were the one to call it off, then you are going to have to be very careful about the way you re-approach her. She was most likely very hurt after your relationship ended, so asking her to put herself in that position again is going to be difficult. A girl is going to translate your actions as “I thought I could do better, turns out I can’t, so I guess you’ll do”. That’s not going to work a lot of the time.
If you were the one that called it off, then getting things going again is going to involve some pride swallowing on your part. You need to admit that you were wrong to call it off in the first place. A good way of doing this is to say something along the lines of “You know, I really miss the (insert something she likes here) we used to do.” Depending on her response you have your opening for a new ‘first’ date.
On the other hand, if she was the one that called things off you need to approach things differently. There was something about you, or about the situation, that didn’t make her happy. All you need to do is figure out what that was and change it, and you are half way to winning her back. From there you need her to become aware of the changed situation, re-establish contact, show her how things will be different and then convince her that getting back together is the best thing for both of you.
That sounds so caring, you must be a nice guy. My partner and I broke up for a month after ten years together. I couldnt stand being apart and neither could he. He came round one night and we just watched a film had a drink together and things happened naturally. We laughed and cuddled up and realised how much we still care and love each other. It was hard to move on, I kept asking if he'd slept with anyone else in those weeks and it started to come between us. I just think whatever happened he came back to me so noone else obviously makes him feel the same. I kept dwelling on the problems we had in the past which doesnt help. Anyway you are right not to talk about the past, my partner says the future is most important and he wants us to get married. If it is meant to be it will be so yes, just relax and things will happen if it is what you both want. Good luck.
Is there something that she loves about you? like maybe your smile (i love to see my guy smile) or her favorite shirt of yours? think about those things. Your suggestions are great
My ex and i split up two weeks back. We cant avoid each other due to attending the same sports club 4-5 times a week.
However, i am taking two weeks off training (quoting illness and holiday as my reasons) to sort myself out. I plan to just concentrate on myself, bring back the guy i used to be, let go of ';us'; and get to the stage where i can just relax around her and have fun like we used to......as friends.
In two weeks me and a group of friends are going over the Dublin to celebrate my 21st birthday- my ex girlfriend is meant to be coming too as she is a big part of my friendship group. We are meant to be meeting for a drink before hand too, to clear the air.
My question to you guys is how to act in two weeks to be most attractive to my ex? MY gut instincts tell me:
- do not talk about the past
- just have fun banter with her like i used, and flirt a little but not over powering
- continue to give her alot of space
- just relax around her
Any suggestions would really really help guys, i really like this girl and although i know it will take a lot of time, patience and control to get a relationship back, i know it is what i really want.
Thanks
xWhat would attract you to your ex boyfriend girls?
You are completely right, all of the bullet points you have listed are completely the right way to go about it...take time and patience and it will pay off...
Good luck to you my dear, really wish my ex boyfriend would think like this.... :)What would attract you to your ex boyfriend girls?
Yes you got it right that you have to be patient that means you are on the right track.I have given these tips to many people and it worked well and i see it will be same for you as well.Just go through them:
How you get back together is going to depend a lot on how you broke up.
If you were the one to call it off, then you are going to have to be very careful about the way you re-approach her. She was most likely very hurt after your relationship ended, so asking her to put herself in that position again is going to be difficult. A girl is going to translate your actions as “I thought I could do better, turns out I can’t, so I guess you’ll do”. That’s not going to work a lot of the time.
If you were the one that called it off, then getting things going again is going to involve some pride swallowing on your part. You need to admit that you were wrong to call it off in the first place. A good way of doing this is to say something along the lines of “You know, I really miss the (insert something she likes here) we used to do.” Depending on her response you have your opening for a new ‘first’ date.
On the other hand, if she was the one that called things off you need to approach things differently. There was something about you, or about the situation, that didn’t make her happy. All you need to do is figure out what that was and change it, and you are half way to winning her back. From there you need her to become aware of the changed situation, re-establish contact, show her how things will be different and then convince her that getting back together is the best thing for both of you.
That sounds so caring, you must be a nice guy. My partner and I broke up for a month after ten years together. I couldnt stand being apart and neither could he. He came round one night and we just watched a film had a drink together and things happened naturally. We laughed and cuddled up and realised how much we still care and love each other. It was hard to move on, I kept asking if he'd slept with anyone else in those weeks and it started to come between us. I just think whatever happened he came back to me so noone else obviously makes him feel the same. I kept dwelling on the problems we had in the past which doesnt help. Anyway you are right not to talk about the past, my partner says the future is most important and he wants us to get married. If it is meant to be it will be so yes, just relax and things will happen if it is what you both want. Good luck.
Is there something that she loves about you? like maybe your smile (i love to see my guy smile) or her favorite shirt of yours? think about those things. Your suggestions are great
How to get over your ex boyfriend?
i love my ex soo much! it hurts and i just wish the pain will go away and i could get over him. but i love him like crazy. i wish that me and him lasted longer he was my best friend and boyfriend. i loved him up to the point where it hurts. i mean he broke up with me because ';we werent connecting'; but really it was because i was too emotional and i complained to much. because he told my friends that. and he broke up with me on december 2 on the phone. me and him went out for 7 months and hung out alot. i miss him and i wish knew what to do to get him back. i mean i did the most romantic stuff in our relashinship. it was like a freggen love story. someone please help me on how to win him back. or should i just wait till he comes or give him signs i dont hate him for what he did. PLEASE HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP.How to get over your ex boyfriend?
I got dumped a month ago... so I can relate. My bf and I broke up on the phone, too, and I haven't communicated with him since. I wish we could be back together... I just don't know if there's a way. I'm going to just be patient and hope I feel better soon. C'est la vie!myspace icons Ltd
I got dumped a month ago... so I can relate. My bf and I broke up on the phone, too, and I haven't communicated with him since. I wish we could be back together... I just don't know if there's a way. I'm going to just be patient and hope I feel better soon. C'est la vie!
What if your ex-boyfriend 'I want to talk to you'?
Me and my ex-boyfriend was talking on the phone saying that he really wants to talk to me.
But i really don't want to talk to him bcuz he broke me heart so many times we dated and i really don't knw what to do about this i do want to get back with him but then i say i don' t want to
I NEED HELP
SHOULD I DATE HIM AGIAN
AND HOW MANY TIMES HE BROKE MY HEART SEEN WE DATED I DON'T KNW IF I CAN STAND IT
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!What if your ex-boyfriend 'I want to talk to you'?
if you are going to be unhappy dating him then dont go out with him. also only go out with him if you really like him not because you guys dated before or he likes you.
if you really like him and you will be happy dating him and are willing to go through the ups and downs of yalls relationship then go out with him.
But i really don't want to talk to him bcuz he broke me heart so many times we dated and i really don't knw what to do about this i do want to get back with him but then i say i don' t want to
I NEED HELP
SHOULD I DATE HIM AGIAN
AND HOW MANY TIMES HE BROKE MY HEART SEEN WE DATED I DON'T KNW IF I CAN STAND IT
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!What if your ex-boyfriend 'I want to talk to you'?
if you are going to be unhappy dating him then dont go out with him. also only go out with him if you really like him not because you guys dated before or he likes you.
if you really like him and you will be happy dating him and are willing to go through the ups and downs of yalls relationship then go out with him.
How to tell your ex-boyfriend you wanna be with him but you can't cause the boyfriend you got now is hitting u?
I was stupid and broke up with my boyfriend for someone else, and i wanna break up with the guy i am with now and be with my ex again. But i want to tell my ex why i can't cause i think he thinks it is just i don't wanna be with him but it ain't it is just i am scared to. Because of the temper of my new boyfriend scares me and yes he has hit me a few times but he said he was sorry... So how do i tell my ex i am being abused by this guy so maybe i can get out of this bad relationship and so he knows the truth that i do love him and only him. What should I do? should i believe this one dude that he cares for me and says he wont ever hit me again? or go back to the one i was with for 8 months and was stupid to break up with him? what do i do?How to tell your ex-boyfriend you wanna be with him but you can't cause the boyfriend you got now is hitting u?
Regardless of your desire for your old bf. You need to get rid of the abusive bf, NOW!
When you get yourself back into a normal mode of mind. Consider getting back with the old bf if you still desire to.How to tell your ex-boyfriend you wanna be with him but you can't cause the boyfriend you got now is hitting u?
leave the guy who has hit you. As we all know, he will probably hit you again and if not it will get worse. Also sounds like you like your ex waay more than your boyfriend (who abuses you).. You should tell your ex how you feel and see where it goes from there, but definately break up with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend should not hit you, and you definately deserve more from a guy.
If they hit you once, they are going to hit again and again and it will get worse, trust me I've been there and the hitting got worse until he almost killed me. Get out now, even if you don't go back with your ex. You need to tell someone what is going on before it's to late..
Go back to the one you love because hitting is not love. I do not believe in hitting any girl period. If he was here close to me, I would go beat his *** for you and he would stay away so you could go live your life with the one you really love.
Tell your ex and have your ex tell him you dont want to be with him anymore. you wont get touched but make sure you dump him sometime, your safety is in danger.
GO back to your EX!! Whoo friking cares if he said sorry. He hit youiu!! Abused you!!! That is not right!! or go back to neither, but you should tell your Ex.
you put yourself in this situation-
you need to enforce a figure that has more authority.
abusive relationships cannot be fixed just like that. Either dump this guy for your ex or buy a lot of bandaids.
dnt ever let a man put hands on you!!
are you kidding me?
go back to your ex, own up to everything and tell him that the asshole your currently with is hitting you..
no one deserves that, even if he is ';sorry'; it doesnt mean he'll stop.. you should watch the movie ';the burning bed'; its based on that, its from the 70's and has farah fawcett in it.. i think you can learn a lot from it, its based on a true story too..
First off, get out of the relationship you're in right now. I was in an abusive relationship a couple years back, and he did the same thing. He would always apologize profusely after hitting me, and I (stupidly) believed him. Don't. Behavior like this starts with hitting and apologies and can escalate to even more than that very quickly, quicker than you think. So first, get out, and you should go to a counselor and explain to them the situation just to alert them. That way, if anything happens because of the break-up, people are prepared to deal with it, because you need someone in a position of authority to know what's going on (I had to do all of this as well). In regards to going back to your ex, talk to him. You need to tell him that you left him for someone else, but now you regret it completely and you didn't realize what a good deal you had with him until you were with someone else. Unfortunately, that's a lesson that a lot of people have to learn the hard way, and tell him that that's exactly what happened to you, but now you realize what a good catch he is. He'll be hurt that you left him for someone else, and he might feel like he's ';second rate'; because you wanted to be with this other guy until he started abusing you, but you'll have to be completely honest with him and just hope for the best.
Well first, you need to tell someone that he's hitting you. You can't really believe that he won't hit you again especially if he has hit you after apologizing. If you believe him every time he does it you will never leave. You need to talk to your ex and tell him how you feel. He will be able to protect you from the guy you're with and then you two will be able to live happily ever after...at least till you want it to be over for good. Good luck.
How old are you?
You seriously need to kick the BF that is hitting you to the curb... fast... and file charges on him! You need to teach this twerp that hitting women is NOT acceptable under any circumstances. DO NOT take any more abuse... ever!
This guy will continue hitting you and the beatings will get more severe with time! The typical pattern is for him to cycle back and forth from abuse to apology and a little sweet period, followed by a more extreme beating. Stop it now!
If you are still living with your parents, talk to them NOW... tell them what is going on and have them help you file charges with the police. The police will help in any way possible, including helping you to get a restraining order against him.
If you and he are still going to school, you need to inform school officials about this so they can take steps to protect you.
After that, you need to cut him off completely. Use an answering machine or caller ID to screen calls, and you don't open the door to him.
Yes, talk to the old BF... see if you can get him back. The best way to keep the abusive bully away is to have someone else capable of standing up for you around.
If you don't wanna be with your current boyfriend, then don't. Simple as that. If you're scared of him file a PFA.
If you wanna work stuff out with your boyfriend then try for that. Look at counseling for him or something though because his temper sounds out of control.
But if you wanna be with your ex (which it really sounds like), then try to get him back.
If that doesn't work out, look for someone else.
There's always the third side of the coin. Heads, tails, and landing on the side. Life is never either/or. Always look for the third option. And no one can tell you what you should do. It's all up to you and what you really want. When you know what you really want then you'll find a way to make that happen.
Well the ex may be starting to see a pattern with you. How about break up with this new guy because he hits you. Break up with this new guy because he is an abuser. You can't break up with this guy on hopes your ex will take you back. You have to take care of yourself first. If you want your ex back then show him that you have changed. You ever get a gut feeling? Good Luck You made need counseling for your codependency. Any man that ever kicked my *** once would not get a lick in on me twice.
You need help. You need to tell a police officer about the abuse. If you can document the abuse, your boyfriend will be arrested. At that point, you can file a restraining order against him, and he will not be allowed anywhere near you again. You MUST pres charges, and go through the court process, because if you don't, your boyfriend can come back, and then he'll be even angrier. In the mean time, you need to set up a support system for yourself. Tell your parents, move back in with them if that is what it takes to get away from this guy, or go to a shelter. There is no acceptable reason for anybody to hit you, so his apology doesn't mean anything. As far as your relationship is concerned, it is over. Once you have put a safe distance between yourself and your abuser, you can start to contact your ex. You need to be sure that you don't just want your ex back because your current situation bites, so take it slow.
Regardless of your desire for your old bf. You need to get rid of the abusive bf, NOW!
When you get yourself back into a normal mode of mind. Consider getting back with the old bf if you still desire to.How to tell your ex-boyfriend you wanna be with him but you can't cause the boyfriend you got now is hitting u?
leave the guy who has hit you. As we all know, he will probably hit you again and if not it will get worse. Also sounds like you like your ex waay more than your boyfriend (who abuses you).. You should tell your ex how you feel and see where it goes from there, but definately break up with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend should not hit you, and you definately deserve more from a guy.
If they hit you once, they are going to hit again and again and it will get worse, trust me I've been there and the hitting got worse until he almost killed me. Get out now, even if you don't go back with your ex. You need to tell someone what is going on before it's to late..
Go back to the one you love because hitting is not love. I do not believe in hitting any girl period. If he was here close to me, I would go beat his *** for you and he would stay away so you could go live your life with the one you really love.
Tell your ex and have your ex tell him you dont want to be with him anymore. you wont get touched but make sure you dump him sometime, your safety is in danger.
GO back to your EX!! Whoo friking cares if he said sorry. He hit youiu!! Abused you!!! That is not right!! or go back to neither, but you should tell your Ex.
you put yourself in this situation-
you need to enforce a figure that has more authority.
abusive relationships cannot be fixed just like that. Either dump this guy for your ex or buy a lot of bandaids.
dnt ever let a man put hands on you!!
are you kidding me?
go back to your ex, own up to everything and tell him that the asshole your currently with is hitting you..
no one deserves that, even if he is ';sorry'; it doesnt mean he'll stop.. you should watch the movie ';the burning bed'; its based on that, its from the 70's and has farah fawcett in it.. i think you can learn a lot from it, its based on a true story too..
First off, get out of the relationship you're in right now. I was in an abusive relationship a couple years back, and he did the same thing. He would always apologize profusely after hitting me, and I (stupidly) believed him. Don't. Behavior like this starts with hitting and apologies and can escalate to even more than that very quickly, quicker than you think. So first, get out, and you should go to a counselor and explain to them the situation just to alert them. That way, if anything happens because of the break-up, people are prepared to deal with it, because you need someone in a position of authority to know what's going on (I had to do all of this as well). In regards to going back to your ex, talk to him. You need to tell him that you left him for someone else, but now you regret it completely and you didn't realize what a good deal you had with him until you were with someone else. Unfortunately, that's a lesson that a lot of people have to learn the hard way, and tell him that that's exactly what happened to you, but now you realize what a good catch he is. He'll be hurt that you left him for someone else, and he might feel like he's ';second rate'; because you wanted to be with this other guy until he started abusing you, but you'll have to be completely honest with him and just hope for the best.
Well first, you need to tell someone that he's hitting you. You can't really believe that he won't hit you again especially if he has hit you after apologizing. If you believe him every time he does it you will never leave. You need to talk to your ex and tell him how you feel. He will be able to protect you from the guy you're with and then you two will be able to live happily ever after...at least till you want it to be over for good. Good luck.
How old are you?
You seriously need to kick the BF that is hitting you to the curb... fast... and file charges on him! You need to teach this twerp that hitting women is NOT acceptable under any circumstances. DO NOT take any more abuse... ever!
This guy will continue hitting you and the beatings will get more severe with time! The typical pattern is for him to cycle back and forth from abuse to apology and a little sweet period, followed by a more extreme beating. Stop it now!
If you are still living with your parents, talk to them NOW... tell them what is going on and have them help you file charges with the police. The police will help in any way possible, including helping you to get a restraining order against him.
If you and he are still going to school, you need to inform school officials about this so they can take steps to protect you.
After that, you need to cut him off completely. Use an answering machine or caller ID to screen calls, and you don't open the door to him.
Yes, talk to the old BF... see if you can get him back. The best way to keep the abusive bully away is to have someone else capable of standing up for you around.
If you don't wanna be with your current boyfriend, then don't. Simple as that. If you're scared of him file a PFA.
If you wanna work stuff out with your boyfriend then try for that. Look at counseling for him or something though because his temper sounds out of control.
But if you wanna be with your ex (which it really sounds like), then try to get him back.
If that doesn't work out, look for someone else.
There's always the third side of the coin. Heads, tails, and landing on the side. Life is never either/or. Always look for the third option. And no one can tell you what you should do. It's all up to you and what you really want. When you know what you really want then you'll find a way to make that happen.
Well the ex may be starting to see a pattern with you. How about break up with this new guy because he hits you. Break up with this new guy because he is an abuser. You can't break up with this guy on hopes your ex will take you back. You have to take care of yourself first. If you want your ex back then show him that you have changed. You ever get a gut feeling? Good Luck You made need counseling for your codependency. Any man that ever kicked my *** once would not get a lick in on me twice.
You need help. You need to tell a police officer about the abuse. If you can document the abuse, your boyfriend will be arrested. At that point, you can file a restraining order against him, and he will not be allowed anywhere near you again. You MUST pres charges, and go through the court process, because if you don't, your boyfriend can come back, and then he'll be even angrier. In the mean time, you need to set up a support system for yourself. Tell your parents, move back in with them if that is what it takes to get away from this guy, or go to a shelter. There is no acceptable reason for anybody to hit you, so his apology doesn't mean anything. As far as your relationship is concerned, it is over. Once you have put a safe distance between yourself and your abuser, you can start to contact your ex. You need to be sure that you don't just want your ex back because your current situation bites, so take it slow.
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